Examine Yourself and Then..

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Thoughts=Reality

We’ve all seen or read some form of this thought. Many of you strongly believe this tenet. So why do we continue to wallow in the relationship mistakes of the past? Some folks even join groups that focus intensely on relationship problems. Therapy is designed to delve deeply into your “psychological” problems. So if we are thinking about how we are plagued with our “problem” and we believe in the above statement – this means we are creating more & more of our relationship problem!! Law of Attraction is as simple as that! I’ll use myself as an example. I had failed relationship after failed relationship; therapist after therapist. Eventually I joined a support group where members shared very intensely about their troubled pasts in the area of love and family. I headed up this group in my town for years. I finally got sick of the analysis and was in sheer disgust & disbelief! I was stuck. Then I was introduced to & embraced the Law of Attraction and I realized that the analysis of one’s past is only Stage One in the process of completely letting go of the pattern. Once you understand why a pattern is created, the 2nd crucial step in the process is to Change Your Thinking!!! Everyone misses this step. Start focusing on what’s happy in your current life. Focus on images of a happy future. Start working towards a fun, unrelated project. STOP focusing on the “problem”! Because in reality, that problem only exists in your mind. Examine, learn, and then LET GO of it!

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People

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I stumbled across this saying today…

People=Reason

Sometimes an old love will pop into your mind years later and you can finally get some perspective. I think that a good percentage of the time, it is not clear why a person is or was in your life at that time. Remember this saying and challenges will be easier to swallow. Whether it’s a love, a boss, a parent, a child, a neighbor, a co-worker or a random acquaintance – that person was brought to your life purposefully. Trust that that purpose will be made clear.

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Help! I Can’t Let Go!

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I am hearing this a lot lately… “It was a bad break-up. I THINK it’s over but every time I am just starting to get my life back, they show up again! What am I to do? I can’t let go! Is it a sign from the Universe that it was meant to be? It’s such a push&pull of emotions! It’s destroying me!”…You are clinging for dear life.

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As hard as this is to swallow while you are in this state…. Look at yourself. Is the current state of mind that you are in comforting? The chaos you are experiencing – do you think it is IN the Vortex? Or OUT of the Vortex? Do you want the turmoil to continue & carry on? I think the answers are obvious. YOU control every small part of your destiny. YOU are creating these circumstances through your vibration. Your circumstances have NOTHING to do with the other person. When you are not at peace with your current circumstances or at peace with your future, the Universe sends you more chaos.  Perhaps that is why they keep returning? I have seen friends and clients circle around & around in an endless loop of psychological torture over an ex. Some waste years in pain. The momentum of negative thought, chaos & torture will continue unless Y-O-U make a conscious and concerted effort to change your thoughts. Do ANYTHING to get yourself off of the topic of “him/her” and force yourself to focus on some other part of your life. Find ANYTHING positive to focus on – work, your children, friends, a project, your health, a hobby. As you continue to cling to another person for your happiness, you deprive yourself the keys to your serenity, calm & peace of mind. Stop clinging. Let go – the rewards are untold.

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