When Someone Pushes Your Buttons…

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We’ve all been there. A parent, a partner or spouse, your child says something that IMMEDIATELY pushes your button and you see RED!

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Take a breath and leave the room for a moment. (Yes, this is the Best course of action). Take a moment to ask yourself – “Why does this type of situation trigger my anger so quickly?” Own the fact that your reaction comes with past experiences that may have nothing to do with that person or the circumstances today. You may be bringing baggage to the table from your past. Move passed the emotional reaction and respond to the person with “What are you requesting from me?” or ” What do you hope to accomplish by this particular interaction in this moment?”  Learn from your emotional triggers. This approach doesn’t always work but it certainly gives an option to an escalated screaming & name-calling conflict. Best of luck!

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It’s All in How You Look at Things…

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Happy Valentine’s Day weekend! Much of the Mid-West & East Coast of the U.S. looks like this today…

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As my son has ANOTHER snow day off from school, I cringe at my need to shift my work schedule & he is exuberantly celebrating this change in routine. I watch both of our reactions and realize why children are the wisest folks in the room. My son celebrates the change & joyfully embraces the circumstances. I am bogged down in the logistics instead of realizing the opportunity for fun & undistracted time enjoying my son. Children are always focused on fun & enjoyment. They are truly wise. Even in romance, your enjoyment or suffering is only determined by how you are viewing the situation. Will you be wise in your choice?

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Anticipation

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Have you ever watched children between Thanksgiving and Christmas?… I was a primary school gym teacher for some years so I had the good fortune to watch groups of children through the holiday season.

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If you watch them, they KNOW it’s coming! There’s no doubt in their mind that something wonderful will come to them. We can learn a lesson by watching them. If something that you REALLY want has not manifested yet, act like a child between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Get excited. Imagine all the “gifts under the tree”. Imagine Christmas morning and all the wonderment that comes when children awaken that day.  You could spend time in frustration & disappointment but there is another option. Wouldn’t you rather spend your time feeling THIS way?.

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Do You Keep Telling the Same Story?…

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Our lives create a story. You may have forgotten that YOU are indeed the author!

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Each time you tell others a story of your relationship history, dating history, the story of your marriage or about your children, you are creating a future full of the same stories. Do you like the story that you tell? Does it fill your heart with warmth? Or do you feel sad or angry as you tell your story? You control the plot, the setting, the events as they unfold and by just telling this same story over and over again, you invite more of the same. If you don’t like your life story, start changing how you tell things… For example: “I have REALLY learned from past experiences and am heading into a (relationship, parenting style, career, etc.) that I can’t wait to watch unfold”.

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Sometimes All That’s Left is to Laugh at Yourself…

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An issue or problem can consume you (whether you realize it or not). As you experience the discomfort of wanting something, you place a wish out in the Universe. Your work is now done. Stop worrying; stop obsessing; stop analyzing the details. All that’s left to do is laugh; even if it’s only to laugh at yourself for being totally & perfectly human!

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The solutions only come when you are able to let go of the problem.

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Recognize and Appreciate the Moment Your Dream Comes True

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I once dreamed of living on an exotic island get-away. (I plastered my sun-less office cubicle with photos of dreamy islands). I then dreamed of becoming a radio DJ (I even went & got my radio/television broadcasting certification). I once dreamed of having a rambunctious, laughter-filled, mischievous little boy (I went to an adoption agency to start the paperwork). I once dreamed of owning a bad-ass Jeep to drive along the beach while singing Flo-Rida tunes. (I would stare at every cool Jeep that drove by)

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I once dreamed of working in a gym (my favorite place to be) so that I could enjoy the island, my little boy & my Jeep as much as possible. Stop the analysis. Stop the “why isn’t it happening for me?” story. In my life, dreams came true without me even realizing it by doing these 3 things: 1) Wishing for it   2) Forget about the “how” and just be happy enough in the moment that you even forget about the dream   3) When the opportunity arrives – jump all over it faster than you can take your next breath.

(I took that pic of my boy on my Jeep on the beautiful island just before going to work at the gym! And later that day after I picked up my boy from school, we went to radio station to record my nightly show. Lol!!!)   

When your dreams come true take a moment to be outrageously grateful. Ride that wave of Appreciation… And then set off for your next big dream….

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You Find What You Seek….

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When you look or think about someone, what is it you seek to find?… I can guarantee that you will find in others what you are expecting to see… This point becomes clearest to me when I look at my son.Airport.'12 My son looks out & expects adventure. He expects fun, He expects friends. He expects safety. He expects acceptance. He expects deliciousness. He expects love. And the Universe delivers to him EXACTLY that. When I look at my son (yes, that’s him in the photo), I expect to see wisdom, clarity, energy, innocence, acceptance, intensity, joy, vivaciousness, curiosity, sensitivity, and love. I expect to see my hero. True to Law of Attraction – I get what I expect to see. When you are looking at someone (a partner, a potential partner, your child, a family member, your friend, your boss, your co-worker, your neighbor, etc.), be aware of which glasses you are viewing them. What you expect to find will be your truth.

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