When Someone Pushes Your Buttons…

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We’ve all been there. A parent, a partner or spouse, your child says something that IMMEDIATELY pushes your button and you see RED!

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Take a breath and leave the room for a moment. (Yes, this is the Best course of action). Take a moment to ask yourself – “Why does this type of situation trigger my anger so quickly?” Own the fact that your reaction comes with past experiences that may have nothing to do with that person or the circumstances today. You may be bringing baggage to the table from your past. Move passed the emotional reaction and respond to the person with “What are you requesting from me?” or ” What do you hope to accomplish by this particular interaction in this moment?”  Learn from your emotional triggers. This approach doesn’t always work but it certainly gives an option to an escalated screaming & name-calling conflict. Best of luck!

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Ready for a Lesson in Growth?

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I recently had a discussion with a close friend who had a “come to jes–” moment with me.

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I described a recent dating experience in which a dating partner asked me to do something I had clearly defined as an activity that I don’t enjoy. I reiterated to him that I don’t like hiking outdoors & that he was welcome to go alone while I detailed my Jeep that day. My GF pointed out to me, “Chris, not every difference is a battle about changing you! You must recognize when a partner is just wanting to spend time with you doing something he enjoys and wants you to learn that side of him.”…Oh, I hadn’t considered that. Hmmm… the alpha female in me is always ready to do battle about “standing my ground” but dating & relationships is NOT about this. I see now that I had squandered a moment to learn something about him & grow closer instead of seeing only a difference that defined our separateness. Be wise and humble enough to learn from a dating partner. As Jason Mraz sings, “..You win some or learn some…”

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A Time to Reflect

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Nothing beats strong emotion as an opportunity to learn about self. Whether it is great sadness, intense anger, confusion, frustration or overwhelming joy, experiencing intense emotion provides an excellent opportunity to examine yourself and learn what makes YOU tick.

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In these moments of emotion, it takes an unusual awareness of self to rise above the moment and observe your own reactions and state of mind that arise out of circumstances outside of your control. Our job in this journey is not to learn how to control conditions and circumstances but to make sense of our emotional reactions. These reactions are normal & acceptable but it helps one to stay sane if you can remember, “I can learn about myself from this” and “My emotions last month on this date are hard to remember, this will also pass & be hard to remember”. Use emotional intensity as a unique way to learn how to stay grounded in calm & sanity.

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Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

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When the Unexpected Happens

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I’m gonna keep this simple. When the unexpected happens in your dating life – Go with It

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BUT (and you knew there’d be a “but”)…Go with it without ANY expectation. Be willing to let the unexpected event unfold the way it will. Don ‘t read into it. Don’t expect a result. Just allow. Trust the sequence of events. The path you were meant to take usually lies in the unexpected – that’s how the Universe rolls…

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Life is Supposed to Be EZ! We Choose to Make it Hard

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Everyone seems to be striving for something. Striving for mo’ money; striving for a relationship; striving for a better job; striving to get into a good school; striving to get your kids into a good school, etc… Is all this work really the way to go?

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I think many either misunderstand or don’t know about the Law of Attraction. Many think it’s about imagining what they want and then pursuing their desires with passion, yearning & action. WRONG. The work is actually in feeling good in the moment & accepting where you are in life. Only then are the emotional barriers (that you’ve created) released & then your desires have a path to flow to you. So much work, so much yearning & so much focus on what ISN’T happening creates road blocks. Set your desire then forget about it & have fun. Let the Universe do its thing. You’ll know when to act. It’ll be a fun, whimsical impulse. THAT’S the work of Law of Attraction. Stop making it all so hard!

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A Vibrational Match

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Understanding the Law of Attraction, “Like attracts Like”. What does this mean regarding your interaction with other people?…

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Be aware of your mood. Be aware of how you feel about yourself, your life, other people. Are you generally a happy person? Do you usually see the positive in a situation? With your mood & it’s intensity, you send out a vibration into the universe; very similar to the ripple in a pond. The Universe responds by sending you circumstances and events that will AMPLIFY or EMPHASIZE your current mood. The Universe doesn’t just send you what you want because you ask for it – you have to line up your mood to match those happy circumstances. For example, if you are feeling lonely, betrayed, and bitter, I can guarantee that the Universe will send you a person or circumstances that “prove” to you that this is a lonely, bitter world full of people who betray you. On the other side of the rainbow, when you view others as co-creators with you who bring the unique characteristics that make them special and you can appreciate everything they bring, you will draw a fun adventure of discovery. You have the choice to be a Vibrational Match to your dream. Choose your thoughts wisely.

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It’s All in How You Look at Things…

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Happy Valentine’s Day weekend! Much of the Mid-West & East Coast of the U.S. looks like this today…

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As my son has ANOTHER snow day off from school, I cringe at my need to shift my work schedule & he is exuberantly celebrating this change in routine. I watch both of our reactions and realize why children are the wisest folks in the room. My son celebrates the change & joyfully embraces the circumstances. I am bogged down in the logistics instead of realizing the opportunity for fun & undistracted time enjoying my son. Children are always focused on fun & enjoyment. They are truly wise. Even in romance, your enjoyment or suffering is only determined by how you are viewing the situation. Will you be wise in your choice?

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