Party Conversation


While Talking with a Friend…


At a recent party, I started talking with a friend who moved into the topic of dating (imagine that!, lol)  My friend was in a place where many friends sit – indecision. “Chris, I went on this date recently but, I don’t know…I notice that in the last year, I go on a lot of 1st dates but it never goes any further.” I asked how he felt about that “Well, I’m not that bothered really. I am SO busy with graduate school, I just don’t have the time & energy for anyone…but I DO want a relationship”. I smiled inwardly, this is a typical story I hear from numerous friends in this 24/7, hectic, electronic world. “I want to find someone but I don’t have the time or energy to put into it!”  So then this friend is conversing with me & wondering why nothing is blooming.

When you approach ANYTHING with conflicted energy or 50/50 energy or tenuous vacillation, you draw out of the Universe results that reflect EXACTLY that:  Kinda’ what you want but nothing that knocks your socks off. An easy example – hit a ball against a wall. It only returns to you with the EXACT energy that you exert to hit it. If you are undertaking the journey of online dating or dating as whole, how much positive energy are you hitting the ball with? That’s the energy & result that you will get back.


My Online Dating guide is an eBook now available through Amazon/Kindle at the link (underlined Title below picture) below:


Like Yourself 1st



As I sit down with folks to discuss the online dating process, my 1st question is “Do you know who you are & do you like yourself?”  If there is any hesitation in their response or if their response is decidedly negative, I firmly state that they are NOT ready for the Online Dating process.

There are 3 reasons for this:

1) According Law of Attraction, you will attract a person in a similar emotional state & in a similar stage of their journey in life. Do you know anyone that searches for a mate who doesn’t like themselves?

2) Online Dating can be a fun process or a hurtful, frustrating process. I will guarantee you that hurt & frustration will be part of this process if you don’t complete the “self-work”  first.

3) Online Dating, indeed dating in general, is a step-by-step learning process. It is a means to learn about yourself; learn about your likes/dislikes; learn about others and learn about who you are in a relationship. When you do not know yourself and like yourself before entering this process, the crucial self-learning is lost as you focus on the wrong things (the hurt feelings, the loneliness, and the silly details of “he said, she said”)

Come to a good place about who you are then approach this Online Dating growth process.


My Online Dating guide is an eBook now available through Amazon/Kindle at the link below: