When Someone Pushes Your Buttons…

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We’ve all been there. A parent, a partner or spouse, your child says something that IMMEDIATELY pushes your button and you see RED!

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Take a breath and leave the room for a moment. (Yes, this is the Best course of action). Take a moment to ask yourself – “Why does this type of situation trigger my anger so quickly?” Own the fact that your reaction comes with past experiences that may have nothing to do with that person or the circumstances today. You may be bringing baggage to the table from your past. Move passed the emotional reaction and respond to the person with “What are you requesting from me?” or ” What do you hope to accomplish by this particular interaction in this moment?”  Learn from your emotional triggers. This approach doesn’t always work but it certainly gives an option to an escalated screaming & name-calling conflict. Best of luck!

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Ready for a Lesson in Growth?

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I recently had a discussion with a close friend who had a “come to jes–” moment with me.

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I described a recent dating experience in which a dating partner asked me to do something I had clearly defined as an activity that I don’t enjoy. I reiterated to him that I don’t like hiking outdoors & that he was welcome to go alone while I detailed my Jeep that day. My GF pointed out to me, “Chris, not every difference is a battle about changing you! You must recognize when a partner is just wanting to spend time with you doing something he enjoys and wants you to learn that side of him.”…Oh, I hadn’t considered that. Hmmm… the alpha female in me is always ready to do battle about “standing my ground” but dating & relationships is NOT about this. I see now that I had squandered a moment to learn something about him & grow closer instead of seeing only a difference that defined our separateness. Be wise and humble enough to learn from a dating partner. As Jason Mraz sings, “..You win some or learn some…”

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

EnjoyOnlineDatingCover

It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.