Test Your Boundaries

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Dating is an area of life that screams “Test your boundaries”! Although I am an advocate for always doing what is comfortable and always being true to yourself, dating provides opportunities to try on new definitions of “You”.

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The key to enjoying dating is to be open to discovery. Meeting someone who has different views or different ways of doing things, just means that is “their” unique way that has nothing to do with and no effect on you. You are just learning about someone new and learning what sides of you (if any) that they appeal to. If you stay in your comfort zone when dating, it may work out just fine. Unless, you have a streak of adventurer in you. Then you may find yourself bored and unchallenged. If you have an adventurous nature, testing your boundaries during the dating stage may be the wiser choice. Try on new hats; test your boundaries; have fun!
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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

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The Diversity of Online Dating

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Hinge, Tinder, Date and Grow, Match, OK Cupid, or even Facebook…

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There are a million online dating mediums these days. New online dating mobile apps (i.e. Tinder) are hugely popular. Then there are the traditional (Match or Plenty of Fish) and even philosophy-based dating sites (i.e.Date and Grow). Some folks are even using online social media as their sole resource to meet new people. Every demographic (age, culture, profession, etc.) is represented by one or more different sites.

Think of all the match-ups that ever occurred in human history. Billions & billions. Is there one certain catch-all key to success? Is there one rule that has never been tested or broken when it comes to dating?   “You must know each other for at least a year”;  “Opposites attract”;  etc., etc… The truth is, there is no one, proven way to date. There is no Golden Rule. There are a billion or more possibilities for success. What rule do I follow myself? I do only what feels fun & comfortable for me at ALL times. To heck what everyone else thinks! Lol!

Choose the site or app that feels the funnest & most comfortable for you and HAVE FUN with ALL of it!

I have more insights but you’ll need to get my eBook, lol! Good luck in this journey & remember – you draw exactly what you FEEL. YOU are the one who controls what comes to you.

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

Go Back or Move Forward?

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Sometimes in romance/relationships, in fact in many areas in life, there is a point where circumstances put us at a cross roads. Do I return to a person, place, situation that I already know and am familiar with or do I move forward with a new person; or to a new place; or to a new circumstance?

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This cross-roads can plague your mind and cause you much angst. People may offer advice. I will not give you an answer. I will only point out that life and learning never stop. Just like time – they are in constant motion forward. So even if you decide to stay in the familiar, you are not the same person you were when you first encountered that person, that job, that location so your experience will bring you new learning (or it should). Flip side, a new relationship, new job, etc. will bring new opportunities to create a new you as well. Make your decision with the intent to learn more, discover more, grow & change. In this way, you will never make a “wrong” choice because you will ALWAYS be moving forward.

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

Vetting – Know Your Priorities

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Admittedly, there is a process of vetting involved in online dating but the process is MUCH easier, clear and straightforward than conventional dating. (Yay for ease!)

The 1st step in any vetting process is knowing your own priorities. Identify your vital 3 or 5 (or more) characteristics. How do you know which characteristics are vital? If you compromise on any of them, you will be compromising yourself & risking your future happiness. Of course, if you have 53 vital characteristics that you are seeking, this might need more thought….

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These characteristics are not compromise-able. Knowing yourself well and feeling confident about your life choices is the key here. You can also create a secondary and even third-level list of desired characteristics which have differing levels of importance with room for compromise. Don’t judge yourself for your priorities. And remember that others will be more than happy to comment on your priorities. But it is YOUR life. The people drawn to you will have these characteristics because you will be clear about your wants & priorities. The Universe sends you what you focus on. I have seen this in my own life time and time and time again. Be clear and unyielding about your top priorities as your priorities become your life.

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

A Simple, True Love Story…

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This is a story that you can probably repeat because it has happened to friends or acquaintances. A close GF shared the story of how how she met her husband online. This while over a cup of coffee with her adorable 1yo toddler sitting in the stroller next to us. While seeking pure “fun” without expectation and flitting about from one person to another like a butterfly to flowers, she met her future husband for a date one night & never left his house. They are happily married. She adopted his school-aged boy & they now have their toddler. She is intensely happy. We all have stories of friends just like this one. How does this happen?…

By focusing on the “what” rather than focusing on the “who”, you keep the door open for what you seek to enter your life.… Make an effort to just switch your thoughts to a description of what type of relationship you want to draw out of the Universe to you. When you can think more generally about relationships, you can usually get to more positive feeling place about what is coming to you. Keep that door open. Allow the Universe to gather the best components for WHAT you want and welcome the relationship that you deserve and is a match for your future… THAT’S how it happens!

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

On Being Stood Up

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Ever deal with this one? If you’ve been on the dating scene for a little while, it can happen.  There are several ways to head this one off:

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1) Realize that a coffee, drink or meal is JUST that – a coffee, drink or meal! It doesn’t have implications for the rest of your life. It’s no big deal.

2)  Meet for coffee or arrange to meet at the bar and not at the table at the restaurant. A cup or coffee or one drink is easy and easy to leave.

3)  Either make the meeting so quick & casual that it would almost be on your agenda to be there alone anyway OR do such a detailed recon by email or telephone that a “no-show” would be highly unlikely. Or both. Plan an errand that is on the same block as the date and it will never be a waste of time.

If you do all of these 3 things well, it won’t matter if your date shows up or not. And IF you are stood up the attitude to have is “Whew, dodged a bullet that would bring me frustration & disrespect. Thank goodness this one showed their colors early!”   And then bounce off to do your errand!   🙂

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

EnjoyOnlineDatingCover

It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

Turbulence vs. Ease

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When interacting with another person in a romantic connection, we may notice turbulence – many ups, downs, extremes of feeling. Or we may notice ease – balance, warmth, feeling good without effort. Ever notice that some are ALWAYS finding turbulent relationships and others have found a smooth and easy relationship? It’s not by accident.

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Life in all cases; in all arenas, was meant to flow with ease. We draw to ourselves exactly how we feel; how we feel about ourselves. We draw exactly what we expect from life. The wanting, the effort, the yearning, the suffering – it’s a product of how you are looking at life.  Ease in romance, career, family relationships come with acceptance and peace with who you are and where you are in your journey. 

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

EnjoyOnlineDatingCover

It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.