When the Unexpected Happens

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I’m gonna keep this simple. When the unexpected happens in your dating life – Go with It

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BUT (and you knew there’d be a “but”)…Go with it without ANY expectation. Be willing to let the unexpected event unfold the way it will. Don ‘t read into it. Don’t expect a result. Just allow. Trust the sequence of events. The path you were meant to take usually lies in the unexpected – that’s how the Universe rolls…

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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Dating = Self-Discovery

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Just like any journey, project, challenge or chapter in life, the process of dating is just another vehicle to discover much about oneself.

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Are you compatible with this type of person? Which characteristics resonate with you? Do you like relationships to progress quickly or slowly? How willing are you to be vulnerable? Does your emotional boat get rocked easily by other people’s behavior and choices? What are your goals in a relationship? All of these questions come up while in the dating process. It is part of your journey of maturing and growing. If you accept all parts of this process, you will find yourself satisfied with dating even through unpleasant circumstances.

I have more insights but you’ll need to get my eBook, lol! Good luck in this journey & remember – you draw exactly what you FEEL. YOU are the one who controls what comes to you. Have fun!!!


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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

What To Do When It’s Not a Match

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OK, more detail on this topic (not my usual material but here goes, again Lol!)…. You are on a 1st or 2nd date and you KNOW beyond a doubt that this is NOT a match.

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You are no longer interested. Many folks express discomfort & dread with this moment. Just as a reminder, your profile should have already “weeded out” those who are far off from what you are looking for (Buy & read my book below if you aren’t sure how to construct your profile). But there are times when a person looks like a good prospect for a match on paper but in person, well, it feels differently. There are several ways to handle this comfortably. I will outline one way here:

BEFORE you meet, state that you feel most comfortable messaging about any follow-up meeting AFTER your 1st date is over. This way, the other person knows not to expect a commitment to a call or 2nd date arrangement. Be VERY clear about this. Stick to your guns even if the other tries to cajole you into a commitment. If they are offended by this suggestion, well, do you really want to deal with them if they can’t be understanding?

When you arrive back home, give it some thought & if you truly KNOW that you do not want to continue with this person, send them a very nice message. “I’m not feeling the chemistry or connection that I know you are seeking and deserve. It was very nice learning about you and I do wish you well in your search to find a match for what seek. All the best.”. That’s it. Do NOT go back and forth with the person about why or maybe next time, etc., etc.

I have more tips but you’ll need to get my eBook, lol! Good luck in this journey & remember – you draw exactly what you FEEL. YOU are the one who controls what comes to you. Have fun!!!

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

http://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Online-Dating-Using-Attraction-ebook/dp/B00HPGGH7C/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1389201434&sr=1-1&keywords=Enjoy+online+dating+using

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

1st Date Tips

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OK, I usually don’t focus with such detail on this topic but here goes…. Been on much more than my share of 1st dates & I can only share what works for me.

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So a little about me. I love discovery&adventure. I love fun conversation. I hate wasting time. That being said here are my bullet point guidelines for a 1st date:

  • It’s supposed to be FUN! It’s about discovery, fun & learning about a new person who could become a friend or not. If you aren’t in that mindset – you’re doomed.
  • Your profile should have already “weeded out” those who aren’t compatible (Buy & read my book below if you aren’t sure how to construct your profile). so use the 1st meeting to confirm the information you already know .i.e. “It’s great that you want kids. I am a primary school gym teacher so I adore school-aged children!” or “It’s so hard to find a person who loves weight-lifting as much as I do. What’s your weekly lifting routine?”
  • Go into a 1st date with a list of 5-6 top priorities for yourself. Mine are: Loves kids; loves to lift weights; view all aspects of life from a positive perspective; high energy/activity level; know themselves & are comfortable with themselves; grounded & wise; (loving the NFL gives them brownie points!, lol). State these priorities & get their take on these to gauge their match to your wants & needs.
  • STOP TRYING TO SELL YOURSELF!!!!   They aren’t buying a used car. YOU have control, YOU are ascertaining whether this person suits what you are looking for. If it’s a match then there is a 2nd meeting. If not, then you’ve had a pleasant time out with someone or you’ve made a friend. It’s NOT that big a deal!!!
  • At the end, thank them for meeting with you but I wouldn’t say “I’ll call you” or “Let’s do this again”. Give yourself some time to digest & see how you feel. I would say, “Hey, lemme message you tonight. Get home safe!” AND THAT’S IT.

I have more tips but you’ll need to get my eBook, lol! Good luck in this journey & remember – you draw exactly what you FEEL. YOU are the one who controls what comes to you. Have fun!!!

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

http://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Online-Dating-Using-Attraction-ebook/dp/B00HPGGH7C/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1389201434&sr=1-1&keywords=Enjoy+online+dating+using

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

Be Aware of your Feelings

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We were all given a built-in “GPS” system to navigate life. This system is called “Feelings”.

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Sadly, we have been trained, in most cases, to ignore this innate guidance system. When you are meeting new people or faced with a decision or in a new situation, listen to your GPS system. Your feelings will steer you in the direction that the Universe has laid out for you. It is the easiest path. So if you feel relieved or happier with a certain decision or if someone gives you an “icky” feeling, that is your inner guidance system. Listen to your feelings – it’s always the best choice to follow what feels best.

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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http://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Online-Dating-Using-Attraction-ebook/dp/B00HPGGH7C/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1389201434&sr=1-1&keywords=Enjoy+online+dating+using

 

It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

Moving On Too Quickly

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Sometimes we know that the situation we are in is not healthy; not good for either party. It is time to move on. There are two ways to approach moving on. (Actually 3 if you count the “bolting out in the middle of the night” scenario. Lol)

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You can move on in anger, quickly and in chaos & confusion OR you can move on in peace; having accepted all of the gifts of experience & learning that this situation brought to you. The Law of Attraction tenets in mind, you bring more of the emotion that you are feeling today. If you leave in anger, haste & chaos, guess what you’ll be seeing more of. If you leave with a sense of peace & clarity then your path ahead will go smoothly. Moving on before reaching a place of serenity is moving on too quickly.

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

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http://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Online-Dating-Using-Attraction-ebook/dp/B00HPGGH7C/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1389201434&sr=1-1&keywords=Enjoy+online+dating+using

It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.

Find Love in the Simplest Things

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It’s not hard to find love in every moment of your day…Your family members, a mother walking her child to school, the person next to you on the bus, the people in the coffee shop. Even your love for a good cup of coffee… (lol – sorry, couldn’t help myself)

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You don’t have to be in a relationship to find evidence of love all around you. When you see it, celebrate it!  Appreciate that the Universe sent you evidence of love today.

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  • Need guidance on how to date “LoA-Style”? Private e-mail consultations are available for personalized guidance in your dating journey AND
  • If you are revamping your health/fitness/nutrition routine and are looking for an alternative to costly personal training sessions, I also provide weekly email fitness programs (Video assistance is also available) and basic nutrition guidelines tailored just for you. A unique system of accountability can be built into your fitness consultation program. Certified through the American Council on Exercise, Silver Sneakers and Jonny G. Spinning and a full-time personal trainer/instructor since 2007

Just contact me at vortexdating@gmail.com for a description of very affordable service packages and my link to PayPal.

My new eBook “Enjoy Online Dating Using the Law of Attraction” is NOW available exclusively through Amazon Kindle for under $10. (You don’t have to own a Kindle. Simply download the Kindle app to your phone or Kindle program to your PC for FREE)

http://www.amazon.com/Enjoy-Online-Dating-Using-Attraction-ebook/dp/B00HPGGH7C/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1389201434&sr=1-1&keywords=Enjoy+online+dating+using

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It is the PERFECT guide to those Law of Attraction followers who are delving into the Online/Internet Dating world.